It’s that time of year, when thoughts turn to the frantic question of “what the hell am I going to do about xmas gifts??” I am a notorious scrooge when it comes to the xmas holidays. I’ve lobbied many times to have my family either forgo gift giving or to ignore the holidays altogether. I dream of travelling to a non-Christian, non-western country in late December, the kind of place where people treat Dec. 25 like any other day.
But, I live in the US and my family and friends — even the non-Christian ones, even the Jewish ones! — celebrate xmas and expect me to do so as well. So, I cave in to the gift-giving pressure but I also make an effort to shop well and give thoughtfully.
In my opinion, the best holiday gifts meet the following criteria:
• Cost very little. I strive to break the cycle of consumerism by not buying into (heh heh) the idea that the best gifts are the ones that cost more.
• Involve very little material expense or waste. In other words, very little natural resources or artificial materials had to go into either the production, distribution, or packaging of the item.
• Can be purchased from the maker directly or at least purchased from an independent store owner. I will do just about anything to avoid buying gifts at the big box stores or from any corporate entity.
• Are made from organic, natural, non-toxic, or locally produced materials. I put this one last because it’s the hardest criteria to satisfy — especially if you are also trying to spend less money.
My holiday gift to you, my devoted readers, is the following TOP TEN HOLIDAY GIFT IDEAS. (Eat your heart out, Oprah.) I hope that you will share your own gift ideas, especially those that fit the above criteria, either in the comments or on your own blogs. (Please link to this post so I can see what you have to say!) I should add that most of the ideas are for adults; I don’t really have a clue what to give children — especially since it seems that kids these days (insert grumpy shaking of fist here) only want gadgets with lots of lights and sound effects.
1. The gift of activity. This is my favorite gift to give and to receive. Rather than give an object — another thing to own or dispose of — give the gift of an experience: movie tickets, tickets to a concert or play, membership at a museum or arboretum, a few yoga classes, music lessons, a massage, a reservation at the handball court, etc. Now, this gift can certainly be costly — depending on the event or location — but it also involves the least waste of material goods and the highest likelihood of enjoyment.
2. Restocking the spice rack. Everyone knows that you are supposed to replace your dried herbs and spices every year but, yeah right, who does that? I tend to hold onto dried herbs and ground spices for years, until they lose all semblance of flavor. So, how about giving a selection of standard cooking herbs (basil, oregano, rosemary, thyme) and spices (cinnamon, coriander, curry)? If you buy in bulk at your local Whole Foods (or equivalent) or at the farmer’s market (if you are so lucky), you can package the herbs/spices yourself in nice — and recyclable! — packaging.
3. Magazine subscription. The gift that keeps giving throughout the year. Every month your friend/family member will be reminded how wonderful you are. A nice and easily recyclable gift.
4. Going green gift. Almost all of us are in the process of going more green but the shift over from conventional ways to more environmentally friendly ones can be expensive. So, give basic green items to help. For example, we all know that we’re supposed to stop using plastic containers for storing food (you knew that right?) and start using glass. Give the gift of some pretty glass food containers like these at the Container Store or these by Pyrex. Or give a bottle of Dr. Bonner’s Liquid Soap and an empty spray bottle for mixing a safe home cleaner. (For more ideas of “green gifts,” check out TreeHugger’s Holiday Gift Idea List.)
5. Books from Persphone Books. This independent press in London reprints popular “middle-brow” fiction from the early 20th C, mostly by women. The books are exquisitely made with reproductions of fabric patterns on the endpages. Not only are they beautiful objects, the novels themselves are a revelation — strange, quirky, and incredibly fun.
6. Textiles. There is just about nothing better than a soft, sensuous scarf or hat made from a fine (or even organic!) textile. If you are not crafty yourself, visit your local yarn shop where you might find items for sale. You can also do some online shopping at Redneck Mother’s Crafty Mother’s Corner.
7. Cookbooks. Talk about a gift with almost endless happiness attached. For a small expense, you can guarantee many days of good eating (if the recipient is willing, of course). My suggestion: Mark Bittman’s How to Cook Everything, pretty much an indispensable contribution to any kitchen.
8. The best book you’ve read this year — something that really meant something to you. And, you should be prepared to explain why, either in your xmas card, a note in the opening of the book, or verbally — a significant part of the gift is the story of its meaning to you. For me, it would be Michael Chabon’s Yiddish Policeman’s Union, which is a stellar piece of storytelling and continues Chabon’s record of being the guy whose novels I am least interested in upon first description (imaginary Jewish settlement in Alaska? No thanks) and yet who always transports and enraptures me.
9. Gifts for pets. If you know anyone who dotes on their pets, speaks about them as their children and to them as if they were children (“aren’t yu da cootiest wittle puppy”), give them a gift for their pet. Speaking as a person who is guilty of telling people at length about my cats’ special diet or my dog’s gastrointestinal issues (yes, I’m one of those), I would take a gift for my pet as a sign that the gift-giver recognized the importance my pets have to me — not to mention the fun I would derive from seeing my animal’s fun. I don’t think any dog can resist the charms of a grunting stuffed hedgehog (like this one). I don’t have any specific recommendations for cats because, of course, they will hate whatever you give them — they’re cats after all.
10. Charitable donation. It takes a special person to receive a charitable donation made in their name as a gift, and not feel slighted about not getting a “real” gift. (Trust me, I’ve given charitable donations to family members who were distinctly cranky about not getting some cheap piece of crap instead.) So, choose wisely. But, if you’ve got a selfless and generous soul in your family/circle of friends, there’s nothing better than giving in their name. If you don’t know them already, Heifer International has made holiday charity easy and appealing. But, there are an infinite number of causes: your local animal shelter, the homeless shelter(s) in your town, Doctors Without Borders, Planned Parenthood, you name it.
While I am at it, let me just add that one of the most distressing thing to me about the holidays is the amount of waste not only in the gifts themselves but in the wrapping paper, bows, cards, and etc. It breaks my heart when I walk through my neighborhood on the trash day after xmas and see piles of garbage bags filled with xmas wrapping — a few minutes of unwrapping pleasure followed by a lifetime in a landfill. So, please: re-usable gift bags (don’t throw them out! save them for next year!), recycled xmas wrapping, no more useless, unnecessary tissue paper (I’m on a personal campaign against the stupidity of tissue paper), creative wrapping like brown paper grocery sacks or left over cereal boxes, or wrap everything in a new kitchen towel that becomes part of the gift. It’s not the wrapping, stupid, it’s the gift that matters.

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December 6, 2008 at 7:23 pm
squadratomagico
I will admit to having a bit of a wrapping paper fetish — such retty colors! — but it doesn’t have to be specially purchased for that purpose. For the past few years, I’ve been saving paper bags with good or interesting patterns: the ones that come from museum shops always are good, and some retail stores also have nice bags. They make great wrapping paper.
And, speaking of museum shops: these are always a great place to shop for unique gifts. They are mass-produced, but not at an extreme level; they support the museum; and they often have interesting stories attached. My two favorites are the Metropolitan Museum of Art (NY), which has wonderful jewelry in a variety of price ranges; the Museum of Modern Art (NY, but there’s a number of other contemporary museums in that have catalogues as well) has a variety of interesting, sleek things for the home.
I love to buy people flower vases, often from MOMA. It’s the sort of thing that people often don’t buy for themselves, but a lovely container can really set off a bouquet or set of branches. Much nicer than a ball jar.
December 6, 2008 at 7:34 pm
Sisyphus
My family is not very eco-conscious, but at least we strip off all the non recycleable bits off the wrapping paper and put it in the paper bin. (it helps to be in the part of CA that issues like 12 different types of recycling bins.)
I confess I am being a cheap bastard and boxing up a bunch of the scarves I made for myself last year for people this year. I don’t have the money.
And I don’t have the time to start and finish a bunch of new projects.
I did have luck last year buying hideous kitchy stuff at antique stores, which means I am at least not contributing *new* crap to the landfills. I was surprised how much people liked the wall thingies and watering can and vases and little statues —- it helps that many family members have “collections” of various sorts (my mom loves owls, my sis in law loves pansies) that I can contribute to.
And if you have a local farmer’s market, there might be someone there who makes scented soaps or lotions or beeswax candles, which are also nice little gifts!
December 6, 2008 at 9:21 pm
Wendy
These are all great ideas! I noticed you mentioned that you have a few Jewish friends who are also celebrating the Christmas holiday. We have posted some kosher gift ideas that would be great for these friends. Check out our blog at http://www.koshergiftgiving.com.
December 6, 2008 at 9:23 pm
undine
These are great ideas, especially the towel/gift wrap idea. I agree about the local indy merchants, although I make a big box store exception for Costco, which pays its employees well, has good health benefits, and has resisted all Wall Street’s attempts to Wal-Martize it.
December 7, 2008 at 3:11 am
Casey
I love this list! (And thanks for the Crafty Mothers shout-out, btw.)
I got some holiday-themed fabric on clearance last January and used it last week to sew gift bags for all the nieces, nephews and minicousins. Each of them is getting a book. (One of my youngest son’s favorite holiday books, btw, is “The Gift of Nothing.”)
My family made a decision a few years ago to just provide holiday gifts for the kids and not exchange gifts among the adults. We might burn a mix CD for each other or pass along a book that we’ve read and think someone might like, but there’s no extra shopping involved.
December 7, 2008 at 1:29 pm
JaneB
Charity donations: I tend to pair them with a cheap, fun, local, and if possible light-weight gift (cheaper to mail!) so that the recipient still has a parcel for them – things like home-made fudge, Christmas decorations (check out local craft fairs and school holiday fairs for interesting ideas that support good causes – a funny token gift I bought for various male friends/relatives a couple of years ago was a nice quality wood pencil, which had an attractive tag attached with ribbon which said something like ‘back up word processor. In case of computer failure, apply sharpened end to paper’), small craft kits – the gift of something to do with your hands during all the sitting around chatting that happens at Christmas is often welcome – in broke years I make my own cross-stich card kits by buying a pack of window cards, piece of fabric, rolls of thread, packet of needles, then find small free designs on the internet which are appropriate to the person’s interests, print them off, assemble the materials and package them in a paper bag (or a home-made fabric bag with a ribbon tie – easy to make, reusable…). This year some people are getting a ‘mulled cider kit’ (alcoholic or non-alcoholic cider!) of a recipe with the ingredients – cinnamon sticks, cloves, pieces of dried ginger and that elegant crystal sugar. Packaged in pieces of muslin tied with colourful ribbon – all reusable. Also, for local gifts (where you don’t have to mail them) plants are excellent – herbs to grow on the windowsill, seeds or bulbs for the spring – and both last a while and are biodegradable when finished.
My family has a long tradition of ‘waste not, want not’ – some of the pieces of Christmas paper in circulation (for small gifts!) date back to when my Grandmother was alive which is oh, maybe 20 years ago? Paper is carefully smoothed or ironed, torn bits and sellotape trimmed, and then it’s stored away for the next year. My sister, who uses LOTS of sellotape on her parcels, is always being complained about. It means that we buy far less new paper each year, and it’s fun to see the familiar stuff.
December 7, 2008 at 6:01 pm
incalculable
These are all great ideas! Kids gifts are tough, though – I went to Toys R Us yesterday for a baby shower gift for someone registered there and it was truly horrifying to witness the scale of the gaudy plastic crap we call toys, everything packaged to the nth degree. I usually get my guys art supplies from our local art shop (these always run out), and a board game or two that we can all enjoy. This year for their “big gift” we’re looking for used surfing gear on craigslist. I’m also getting a ukelele from the pawn shop for Monk, and for Moon, singing lessons with a friend who is a voice teacher. Our wider family isn’t very gift-crazy, fortunately, so we usually exchange love & best wishes over the phone or in person. I love the movement toward gift-free (or low-impact gifting) – I’d way rather spend an afternoon doing a puzzle & drinking rum and eggnog with my loved ones than rushing around a busy shopping mall (ugh!).
December 8, 2008 at 1:00 am
bsgirl
Thanks for all these great ideas! I’m going to steal them — and take all the credit when my family/friends love their gifts.
It also does my heart good to see that so many people are making an effort to cut back on the waste, consumerism, and excess of the holidays. You’d never know it, the way the media keeps thrusting “shop, shop, shop” in our faces.