First: Be friended over Facebook by someone you knew, but not terribly well, in high school. Have standard “whatcha been up to” FB reunion. Exchange usual insubstantial FB messages over the course of many months.
Second: Learn that Friend will be in your town for a business trip. Arrange to have lunch.
Third: Lunch — nice, a little uncomfortable. Realize that you haven’t seen or spoken to Friend in almost 20 years and you have almost nothing in common. A few awkward pauses. Leave thinking maybe people who knew each other in high school are not meant to be friends as adults.
Fourth: Receive a long, crazy message over FB from Friend in which s/he declares to have unsettled business with you from high school, including continued “feelings” and “lusts,” and professes a desire to revisit these issues — to discuss what might have been or might still be. Wonder what the hell has given Friend the belief that such declarations are welcomed or, you know, not totally fucking insane.
To be continued …

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March 27, 2009 at 6:33 pm
Ink
Oh, my! That’s a bit scary. I’m speechless!
March 27, 2009 at 6:33 pm
Ink
ps: I hope you’re feeling ok. Wow.
March 27, 2009 at 6:44 pm
Notorious Ph.D.
Anyone who hasn’t moved on *since high school* is an obsessive, or at the very least incredibly emotionally immature, and to be avoided at all costs. If it had been an old friend you reconnected with and discovered that your adult selves were attracted to each other, that’s different. But this sounds like bad news.
March 27, 2009 at 9:12 pm
bsgirl
Contributing the utter surrealism of the experience: Friend not only knows about my relationship with Golden Boy but is married hirself. WTF?
March 29, 2009 at 3:47 pm
the rebel lettriste
Ew! Double ew! I agree with Notorious. Those who carry around decades long “feelings” that never get shared? Kinda super weird.
March 29, 2009 at 8:06 pm
historiann
Now will anyone listen to me about Facebook? TMI, all the way around.